You have just entered a new chapter in your life that involves both fulfillment as a mother and loss of the freedom afforded by life without a child. Allow yourself the time to process all the feelings that are part of this enormous transition before pressuring yourself about whether or not to have a second child.

It's possible that you are substituting "making a decision" for taking the time to resolve the natural, ambivalent feelings that motherhood evokes. Ambivalence in motherhood is a sign of healthy adjustment, which all parents must recognize and come to terms with over time.

Most women just coming out of pregnancy and childbirth do not want to even think about another pregnancy for at least six months! Perhaps the last year of physical change and transformation has left you tired and projecting these feelings into the future. So much is new, it would be difficult to project how you'll feel when your child is two-years-old.

If you feel you have "pushed the envelope" by having your first child in midlife, you are in good company! In the last decade, there has been a burgeoning of parents who have delayed parenthood. Midlife brings to childrearing both strengths and weaknesses, which probably won't change significantly for one or two children. Yet, younger parents may lack the maturity of middle-age, which may make parenthood an easier adjustment!

The concerns you may have as midlife parents may include resources related to your health, money and energy. But you have already brought one child into your current situation, so you must have some faith in your future. And the biggest commitment to change (parenthood) is already sealed.

You are currently in the midst of tremendous psychological change as you become parents! This next year will bring not only your daughter's first birthday, but the birth of a new relationship based on family life. You have the opportunity to discuss how you want to share the responsibilities of parenthood.