Going into labor is exciting, whether it's your first or fifth birth. It starts when the mother-to-be gets contractions or her bag of waters breaks. The contractions don't necessarily mean the birth is going to be right away -- but when the bag of waters breaks, you're on duty.
Here are some suggestions for how you can be most helpful now:
- Use distractions when labor first starts. Suggest that your partner read a book, take a walk or watch a movie. Early labor will progress comfortably and normally if she is engaged in other pleasant activities. Sometimes your healthcare provider can estimate how long you'll have.
- Decide when to head for the birth center or hospital (if you're not planning a home birth). Waiting until the contractions are five minutes apart and at least 45 seconds long has served most first-timers.
- Keep her well-nourished and hydrated. Choose foods that are easy to digest (toast, soup, fruit) and clear liquids (water, Gatorade, apple juice).
- Pack the car. Don't forget the car seat!
- Stay calm and enjoy this momentous experience together.
Barbara Hotelling, BSN, CD(DONA), LCCE, FACCE, has been a Lamaze International Certified Childbirth Educator since 1983. She teaches childbirth classes, is a doula in Rochester Hills, MI, and is past president of Doulas of North America and Secretary of the Coalition for Improving Maternity Services (CIMS).